People ask me this question all the time so I thought I’d nip this in the bud, right here on this episode! (Hint: If you’re listening to this podcast, and looking for ways on how to improve yourself, you’re NOT!)
Whenever we go through a bad breakup, we wonder WHY is this happening, and what the hell do we do with this mess? Or perhaps you wonder the meaning of the breakup, but can’t see it because you’re in too much pain. Well, meet Anna Larimore, a client of mine who I met a year and half ago who went through a bad break up and has just launched a new podcast called Enough.
Anna took everything she learned from me and the journey of her breakup and realized she had enough, and that she was ENOUGH, and it was time to spread her message to the world. She just launched her new podcast and shares how she did it, and what inspired her to do so.
If you’re wondering what you’ll end up doing with your mess, take a listen to this inspiring episode so maybe one day, you’ll be making your mess into your big message!
Check out Anna’s podcast —> HERE!
I just finished reading a GREAT book that I thought would make for great discussion. Check out The Wife Between Us, which is about a woman navigating her marriage with a covert narcissist and sociopath. This book brought up A LOT of memories of my former marriage, and I saw a lot of myself in the main character, it was chilling at times!
The book is completely fiction and a total thriller, page-turner so for me, it didn’t bring up bad memories, per se; it just made me think about the “concept of illusion” that we create in our relationships. There is a quote that I underlined, which is what I talk about in my new video:
The woman who was in the abusive marriage says, “I was happy, I think, but I wonder now if my memory is playing tricks on me. It is giving me the gift of an illusion. We all layer them over our remembrances; the filters through which we want to see our lives.”
When we exit a toxic relationship, we often talk about what HE or SHE has done to US. What THEY did. Why? Because it’s a lot easier. It’s more black and white, and it helps us process what went wrong in the relationship.
But rarely do we talk about what WE did to OURSELVES. In my video, I talk about my former marriage and admitting that I created an illusion of “happiness” because I no longer wanted to experience the pain of my childhood. I was desperate for “happily ever after” and sought that in another person: my husband.
It wasn’t until I exited that marriage where I had to take a hard look at myself and recognized the illusion I co-created.
My friend, THIS is what helps us heal – when we look out what we did to ourselves, and not what the other person has done to us. When you can look at our “shadow,” as I mention in the video, and make peace with the illusion we created, it will set us free.